Why do we do it? We have these jobs we know we need to do but we keep putting them off. By doing this, we make the job appear even more difficult than it is. We give it a power and then even more amazingly, we start to believe the hype we have created.
I'm Debs, and you've found my little corner of the internet
I am a happily married mum of three.
Our house is home to myself, my husband, three children and a huge variety of special educational needs and disabilities (ranging from severe visual impairment to autism, from speech and communication issues to dyspraxia and from osteoarthritis to vertigo) and it's also home to one very nutty dog who fits right in!
I try to keep it real, I don't pretend I have the perfect Instagrammable home life, work/life balance or eating habits. Like you, I have good days when motivation comes easily and days when just getting out of bed is an achievement.
Life is never ever dull!
I hope you enjoy reading my posts, please feel free to leave your comments and thoughts.
If we eat the frog, (ie get that awful job done out of the way), then the rest of the day has got to be a breeze but what if you have more than one frog item on your list?
The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities
âa plan Is what, a schedule is when. It takes both to get things doneâ Pubilius Syrus Lists Are you a list writer? Do you have lists everywhere? Or maybe even lists organised in one lovely book â yes Iâm talking about you – or maybe you have amazing mind maps that youâve spent hours …
Compassion – a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them” Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown that some psychopaths have the ability to feel compassion but …
If you are anything like me, you are possibly involved in several projects. Maybe youâre not involved in lots of projects, but you are trying to juggle work, home, me-time, keeping fit, being a mum/dad, and somehow trying to find time to write that book or redecorate that room. or learn a new skill I …
Fear of Failure Why are we so afraid of failure? Failure means different things to different people; due to our upbringing, beliefs, values and obviously the standards we set for ourselves. Failure for one person may not be a failure for someone else. First of all, you need to really be clear about what failure …
Start where you are Do you put things off because you are thinking of the end result too much and it seems so far away? Want to run a marathon? Want to lose a few stone? Want to start a podcast? Want to change career? You know what you have to do, don’t you? Start! …
Self Care – Not a priority, sorry! How often do you put you first? How often do you do something that is just for your benefit and no one else’s? How often do you make time for yourself, to have a pamper, go for a run, meditate, write, read, watch a movie, paint, crochet, go …
I saw this today and it really made me laugh. When this lockdown is over, letâs not tell some people.
What one thing from Lockdown will you take with you? For me, it has to be the joy of gardening. We discovered it last year and I am so excited to see sunshine again so we can get back out there and get planting again.
I thought my 50th in lockdown was over but today a few presents arrived and Iâm ever grateful that the Royal Mail has had a few delivery issues!
This plant pot saying â50, Debs we think youâre blooming marvellousâ has given me the biggest grin.
Thanks to #sendbloggers who really went out of their way to ensure I had the best 50th ever.
This will take pride of place on our pagodola (canât remember if pagoda or pergola so pagodola it is)! A visit to the garden centre needed to find something amazing to put in.
I have been truly spoiled today. Turning 50 in Lockdown was something I expected to be quite low key but at 12.15pm, Iâm already overwhelmed by all the wishes, gifts (my family have truly spoiled me), a video, video calls, afternoon tea (for about 20 people), and this beautiful piece of bespoke jewellery from one of my besties.
I am looking for inspiration. I am revamping a room to become a dedicated office. At the moment itâs an office, chill room and dumping ground for all things that donât have a home!
So tell me, what would make the perfect home office for you? What storage, desk, accessories, colour schemes would you choose? What are the must haves? What are the âI would like but itâs not essentialâ? What are the âI thought I needed but have never touchedâ items?
All ideas much appreciated. Feel free to dm me some images if you have something you think I need to buy.
Sunshine. It may be weak and it may not be hot but itâs there, itâs mild and suddenly everything in the world seems so much easier to deal with.
Windows are open, washing is on the line (tumble dryer died so this is a real bonus) and Iâm heading into the garden to make a start on prepping it for Spring.
What about you? Whatâs on your âto doâ list today?
My mind is like someone emptied the kitchen junk drawer onto a trampoline.
Just me?
Half term has given me chance to try a quick reset but as I sit thinking of what I need to do, what I want to do and combining those with home schooling, coaching, mentoring, a few other projects bubbling in the background and taking on a new role, Iâm thinking I need a clone, a few more days in the week or maybe I just need to practice what I preach.
Me too! What a day of today... cooked 3 sweet dishes with Jessica, honey comb, chic biscuit flap jacks oh and champion cheese muffins, then a cheat prawn risotto, a paneer curry with cheat onion bhajis, oh my I’m knackered x
The answer may not be at the beach but shouldn't we at least check?
The beach is my happy place and I seem to resolve lots of issues when I am there. I know that if I have an issue going round in my head, going to the beach helps me. I either think of a different way to approach it or I at least calm down and put things into perspective.
I take my children there when they are having a bad time and we choose stones of different sizes to represent the issues they have and we then talk about it. When we think we have a solution, we then sit with our backs to the sea and throw the stones behind us into the sea (making sure no one is at risk of getting hit) and put our worries behind us.
I am not saying it makes our worries disappear altogether, but it helps us to talk through the problem and throwing the stones helps us to move on.
The Happy Diary by Debs Aspland Monday, 25th September 2017 It only takes 5 days and is not a diary you complete every evening, forever. Â You just do this for 5 days and then when you need a boost, you do it again.(113)
Visualising Success by Debs Aspland Monday, 19th February 2018 When I first heard about Vision Boards (aka Dream boards), I thought âoh thatâs nice but I donât have magazines and glue sticks lying around and I have no intention of buying themâ. I moved on.(105)
Review – Teen Calm Box by Debs Aspland Wednesday, 17th June 2020 The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities(100)
Incomplete Compassion by Debs Aspland Friday, 5th June 2020 If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incompleteJack Kornfield Compassion - a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them"Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown…(82)
The Happy Diary Monday, 25th September 2017 It only takes 5 days and is not a diary you complete every evening, forever. Â You just do this for 5 days and then when you need a boost, you do it again.(113)
Visualising Success Monday, 19th February 2018 When I first heard about Vision Boards (aka Dream boards), I thought âoh thatâs nice but I donât have magazines and glue sticks lying around and I have no intention of buying themâ. I moved on.(105)
Review – Teen Calm Box Wednesday, 17th June 2020 The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities(100)
Incomplete Compassion Friday, 5th June 2020 If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incompleteJack Kornfield Compassion - a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them"Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown…(82)
Me, My Notebook and I Friday, 9th October 2015 Making the bullet journal wok for me. Me, my notebook and I.(81)