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I'm Debs, and you've found my little corner of the internet
I am a happily married mum of three.
Our house is home to me, my husband, three children and a huge variety of special educational needs and disabilities (ranging from severe visual impairment to autism, from speech and communication issues to dyspraxia and from osteoarthritis to vertigo). It's also home to one very nutty dog who fits in perfectly.
Having children with SEND has definitely given me a huge bag of tools to help me get back up, time and time again. Tools to help me keep the plates spinning and tools to help me know when I need to focus on self care.
I try to keep it real, I don't pretend I have the perfect Instagrammable home life, work/life balance or eating habits. Like you, I have good days and bad days.
Days when motivation comes easily and days when just getting out of bed is an achievement.
Days when anyone could pop round and I would be delighted to see them, and others when my house is in need of a bit of attention so unexpected drop ins leave me feeling overwhelmed.
Life isn't perfect for anyone but I can help you find that balance so the bad days don't outweigh the good ones.
Life is never ever dull!
I hope you enjoy reading my pearls of wisdom, please
feel free to leave your comments and thoughts.
Debs x
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Latest Pearls of Wisdom
Putting it off – making an easy job a challenge
Why do we do it? We have these jobs we know we need to do but we keep putting them off. By doing this, we make the job appear even more difficult than it is. We give it a power and then even more amazingly, we start to believe the hype we have created.
Self care: Me too not Me First,
Self care isn’t about making you the number one priority and ignoring the needs of everyone around you. Self care means “me too”.
Recent Pearls of Wisdom
Eat the ugly Frog first
If we eat the frog, (ie get that awful job done out of the way), then the rest of the day has got to be a breeze but what if you have more than one frog item on your list?
Review – Teen Calm Box
The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities
To Do List, Planning and Scheduling
âa plan Is what, a schedule is when. It takes both to get things doneâ Pubilius Syrus Lists Are you a list writer? Do you have lists everywhere? Or maybe even lists organised in one lovely book â yes Iâm talking about you – or maybe you have amazing mind maps that youâve spent hours …
Incomplete Compassion
Compassion – a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them” Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown that some psychopaths have the ability to feel compassion but …
Focus, focus, focus
If you are anything like me, you are possibly involved in several projects. Maybe youâre not involved in lots of projects, but you are trying to juggle work, home, me-time, keeping fit, being a mum/dad, and somehow trying to find time to write that book or redecorate that room. or learn a new skill I …
Failure, then success
Fear of Failure Why are we so afraid of failure? Failure means different things to different people; due to our upbringing, beliefs, values and obviously the standards we set for ourselves. Failure for one person may not be a failure for someone else. First of all, you need to really be clear about what failure …
Do what you can
Start where you are Do you put things off because you are thinking of the end result too much and it seems so far away? Want to run a marathon? Want to lose a few stone? Want to start a podcast? Want to change career? You know what you have to do, don’t you? Start! …
Give the world the best of You
Self Care – Not a priority, sorry! How often do you put you first? How often do you do something that is just for your benefit and no one else’s? How often do you make time for yourself, to have a pamper, go for a run, meditate, write, read, watch a movie, paint, crochet, go …
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When this happens, it's usually because the owner only shared it with a small group of people or changed who can see it, or it's been deleted.Last day of our short break. Breakfast before the journey and I can safely say weâve had a great time. The Airbnb was perfect - spacious, comfortable and a great base.
Quick stop to buy something I should have just bought yesterday when I saw it (but that would be too much like common sense) and then the drive home to see our beloved dog who has been pampered at our home for the weekend by @tiggrs
A great recharge, much needed and a chance to think about my new project without getting distracted by the day to day necessities. All will be revealed next Monday. One week for me to pull my thumb out and in the words of DJ Jean âget ready for the Launchâ
#shortbreak #newproject #launchingsoon #excited #rechargingmysoul #rechargingbatteries
Comment on Facebook Last day of our ...
My weekend was made so much better, seeing you all! Safe journey home, my turn to drive to you next xxx
So pleased you all had a good time and that celebration too .
Glad you all had a lovely time safe journey home xx
When she begs you for a 30oz T-Bone as her birthday meal! And she finishes it!
The food and service at @pantyscallogsteak was as amazing as everyone had told us. The portions were huge! My eldest can always be relied on to finish everyoneâs chips but even he admitted defeat.
#tbonesteak #hugeportions #merthyrtydfil #weekendbreak
PD - teenage girl eating a large T-bone steak
Comment on Facebook When she begs you ...
30z!!!! Omg. I used to be able to do that but not now. I had a 12oz the other week and felt sick! đ€Ł xx
Oh my goodness that’s a whoppa!!! Did she manage pudding too? Xx
16! How did that happen? They arrived 3 months early, weighing less than 3lb each. Spent 9 weeks in NIcU, arriving home on Xmas Eve. We worried so much about their future yet somehow here we are, 16 years on and wondering why we were!
R told me what her legal rights were now sheâs 16. (She really is my daughter)!
J told me he is now a man and very excited that he can legally have a drink with a meal.
He also told me he can now legally have sex - with consent. Iâm very proud that he knew that bit! He was disappointed however, that we hadnât bought condoms for him but I explained he needed a girl/boy friend first and I wasnât buying him one of those đ€Ł
Maybe we were right to be worried!
Comment on Facebook 16! How did that ...
I LOVE this! đ Happy birthday R&J I’m sure you’ll have a lovely day đđ
Happy 16th birthday to you both have a lovely day xx â€đ
Happy sweet 16th Birthday Twins x
Happy Birthday xx
Happy Birthday to R & J today xxx â€ïžâ€ïž
Happy 16th birthday!!
Just over two weeks to go to our 5th BAPS Awards and Iâm practising my âno thanks Lisaâ in advance.
The ladies from My Family Our Needs team are notorious for offering shots at the end of the evening; usually just as I have decided to call it a night. I, forgetting I am an adult who should know better, always end up saying âoh go on then, just oneâ, followed by âletâs do another one Leahâ, then âcome on Emma, you know I am going to say yesâ, and then âthanks for helping me off the floor, Jo/Luluâ. I will, of course, carry on practising - No thanks Lisa, No thanks Lisa.
Itâs always a great night with lots of laughter. Being surrounded by people who get it, or who want to offer their support, makes for a relaxed evening and despite never having met many of the other parents in the flesh, we all feel as if we have known each other for years.
I like my little chats outside with the smokers and ex-smokers, I love watching people let their hair down and really unwind, I love the dance floor after the awards and of course, I love sitting next to the lovely hosts. This year, I am super excited as Mathew Horne is our host and I am a huge fan.
Who has got their tickets? If you have been thinking âthereâs ages yet, Iâll get round to itâ, then here is your reminder that thereâs only two weeks to go.
www.myfamilyourneeds.co.uk/baps/
#bapsawards
Comment on Facebook Just over two weeks ...
Next day đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
âWhen deciding whether to do something, if you feel anything less than âWow! That would be amazing! Absolutely! Hell yeah!â then say no.â
â Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur by Derek Sivers
One of those quotes that just makes so much sense. There will always be things we have to say yes to, even if we know itâll never be a hell yeah. Where we do have a choice though, choose wisely.
Have you ever said yes when you really wanted to say no?
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Always saying yes, I need to learn to say no
On World Mental Health day, remember itâs ok to have feelings that are not all sparkly and wonderful. Itâs called being human.
Itâs our ability to move on from the less positive feelings that we should be looking at.
Itâs ok to feel sad but itâs not so ok to feel sad all day every day with no idea or hope of feeling differently. If you find yourself getting stuck, then ask for help before you find yourself unable to.
#worldmentalhealthday #feelings #sad #angry #frustration #moveon
Pd - you donât have to be positive all the time. Itâs perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared and anxious. Having feelings doesnât make you a negative person. It makes you human. Lori Deschene
I donât know where this originated from - it wasnât me - but I relate to this more than I like to admit. Iâm ordering a click and collect for the weekend so I can disappear for a few hours.
Even though my husband and children all follow me on here, they never check my feed (because Iâm a boring middle aged mum) so I can safely post without any fear of them seeing it!
#mumhack #lifehack #metime #planabreak #thankmelater #youarewelcome
PD - mum hack. Order groceries for collection. Tell no one. Say you need to go shopping. Instant 2hr me time
Someone is not impressed - he hates mornings when everyone leaves for school or work and Iâve added to that by telling him off.
Heâs decided to show me exactly how he feels about that.
#dogsofinstagram #stroppydog #moodydog
PD - black and white dog sat facing the back of the sofa with his back to the room
Comment on Facebook Someone is not ...
You big bully đđ€Ł Come and live with us Bertie â€ïž
Oh bless him xx
How do I feel this morning? Like I was hit by a truck!
Driving along the M25 and then âbangâ! A lorry moved into the lane I was in, moving my car out of the way.
Thankfully he stopped and was so apologetic, kept checking I was ok. He said he didnât see my car and the first he knew was when he heard the noise. The first I knew was when my car suddenly moved to the left and I looked up to see a lorry wheel in my window. I may have said a few naughty words.
Thankfully I was in the car alone.
Thankfully he was insured.
My poor car needs some love and my body needs to just soak in a hot bath. My neck, back, shoulder and bizarrely my wrist are all a tad sore.
My eldest son is super anxious about me, heâs also worried about what happens with the car.
My youngest son is more concerned about me insisting he wear a coat to school today đ
My plans for the day have had to change.
#caraccident #hitbyatruck #autism #notintheplan #planschange #ouchthathurt #mypoorcar
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Ouchey hope you are ok this happened to me a few years ago it’s scary. Unfortunately my lorry driver didn’t accept responsibility. đĄ look after yourself I reckon the sore wrist might have something to do with gripping the steering wheel tightly and trying to stay on course when you are hit xx big hugs xx
Oh my word, I’m so glad you’re ok. Take it really easy over the next few days. What a shock you’ve had xx
Sh*t that must have been scary! Glad you're OK x
Ouch for you and your car! So glad you are ok xxx
Bloody hell Debs! Take it easy! It’s the body shock afterwards … x get those pesky kids off to school & chill x
Hope you’re feeling less bruised now Debs xx
Omg Deb Hope you’re ok, how scary for you xx
Holy shit Deb! Have you been checked over?
Wow Debs…glad you are ok. Sounds nasty… (Ps was it a petrol tanker?)
Hope you’re feeling better soon
Most Popular Pearls of Wisdom
Incomplete Compassion Friday, 5th June 2020 If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incompleteJack Kornfield Compassion - a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them"Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown… (204)- The Happy Diary Monday, 25th September 2017 It only takes 5 days and is not a diary you complete every evening, forever. Â You just do this for 5 days and then when you need a boost, you do it again. (192)
- Visualising Success Monday, 19th February 2018 When I first heard about Vision Boards (aka Dream boards), I thought âoh thatâs nice but I donât have magazines and glue sticks lying around and I have no intention of buying themâ. I moved on. (159)
- Me, My Notebook and I Friday, 9th October 2015 Making the bullet journal wok for me. Me, my notebook and I. (144)
- Review – Teen Calm Box Wednesday, 17th June 2020 The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities (144)
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- Incomplete Compassion Friday, 5th June 2020 If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incompleteJack Kornfield Compassion - a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them"Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown… (204)
- The Happy Diary Monday, 25th September 2017 It only takes 5 days and is not a diary you complete every evening, forever. Â You just do this for 5 days and then when you need a boost, you do it again. (192)
- Visualising Success Monday, 19th February 2018 When I first heard about Vision Boards (aka Dream boards), I thought âoh thatâs nice but I donât have magazines and glue sticks lying around and I have no intention of buying themâ. I moved on. (159)
- Me, My Notebook and I Friday, 9th October 2015 Making the bullet journal wok for me. Me, my notebook and I. (144)
- Review – Teen Calm Box Wednesday, 17th June 2020 The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities (144)
