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Putting it off – making an easy job a challenge
Why do we do it? We have these jobs we know we need to do but we keep putting them off. By doing this, we make the job appear even more difficult than it is. We give it a power and then even more amazingly, we start to believe the hype we have created.
Self care: Me too not Me First,
Self care isn’t about making you the number one priority and ignoring the needs of everyone around you. Self care means “me too”.
Hello!
I'm Debs, and you've found
my little corner of the internet
I am a happily married mum of three. Our house is home to myself, my husband, three children and a huge variety of special educational needs and disabilities (ranging from severe visual impairment to autism, from speech and communication issues to dyspraxia and from osteoarthritis to vertigo) and it's also home to one very very nutty dog.
Life is never ever dull!
I hope you enjoy reading my posts, please
feel free to leave your comments and thoughts.
Debs x
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Recent Blog Posts
Eat the ugly Frog first
If we eat the frog, (ie get that awful job done out of the way), then the rest of the day has got to be a breeze but what if you have more than one frog item on your list?
Review – Teen Calm Box
The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities
To Do List, Planning and Scheduling
“a plan Is what, a schedule is when. It takes both to get things done” Pubilius Syrus Lists Are you a list writer? Do you have lists everywhere? Or maybe even lists organised in one lovely book – yes I’m talking about you – or maybe you have amazing mind maps that you’ve spent hours …
Incomplete Compassion
Compassion – a strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them” Cambridge English Dictionary Everyone, with the exception of perhaps some psychopaths, has the ability to feel compassion towards others. Studies have shown that some psychopaths have the ability to feel compassion but …
Focus, focus, focus
If you are anything like me, you are possibly involved in several projects. Maybe you’re not involved in lots of projects, but you are trying to juggle work, home, me-time, keeping fit, being a mum/dad, and somehow trying to find time to write that book or redecorate that room. or learn a new skill I …
Failure, then success
Fear of Failure Why are we so afraid of failure? Failure means different things to different people; due to our upbringing, beliefs, values and obviously the standards we set for ourselves. Failure for one person may not be a failure for someone else. First of all, you need to really be clear about what failure …
Do what you can
Start where you are Do you put things off because you are thinking of the end result too much and it seems so far away? Want to run a marathon? Want to lose a few stone? Want to start a podcast? Want to change career? You know what you have to do, don’t you? Start! …
Give the world the best of You
Self Care – Not a priority, sorry! How often do you put you first? How often do you do something that is just for your benefit and no one else’s? How often do you make time for yourself, to have a pamper, go for a run, meditate, write, read, watch a movie, paint, crochet, go …
We sold our caravan and obviously everything had to come back home. My office became the chosen dump! *insert tears*
Duvets, pillows, cushions, games, beach stuff, magazines, books and so much more.
Tackled it this morning and can now see the bed. Bags to go to charity shops and bags to go in the loft - once that’s done, it’ll be a delight to work in here again
#workingfromhome #storage #keepingitreal
When your husband buys you flowers, and you think “he’s so lovely” and then he says “they didn’t sell deadly nightshade”! 🤬
#keepingitreal #marriedlife #hesakeeper
Tuesday 10. Make yourself accountable today. Share one thing you will do today.
I’ll check in to see how you did later
#accountability #makeyourselfaccountable #productivity #youcandoit
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Today I promised myself I'd find resolution with Vodafone customer service and I have. I decided to stick with the facts and not be emotional about it. It worked, front brain stayed online. 😁
I will look up and find an online course to start to keep my mind occupied!
This is exactly how I feel.Hey friends - line in the sand time.
This won’t apply to 95% of the people here. But for some people - it’s really time for us to part ways.
I cannot emphasise enough. I am not here for your entertainment. I owe you nothing. I’m not here for your conspiracy theories or Covid denial.
I’m not here for your “both sides”. I’m utterly disgusted by your support of Donald Trump (or where you pretend you’re an impartial observer).
I’m not here for your “love and light” version of white supremacy. I’m not here for your QAnon nonsense. It’s boring and stupid and I don’t have to allow it in my space.
Let me be really blunt and clear.
I’m not Sesame Street on a public access channel. Nobody is entitled to my time, attention, or creativity. You don’t get to benefit from my work. No soup for you.
If you don’t leave, I will ban you.
If you harass my community or team, I will ban you.
If you tell me to “wake up”, I will ban you.
You can sit in your passive-aggressive anger, sadness, and disappointment of me. You can bitch about me. But I don’t have to listen to it in MY SPACE.
There’s no boss or manager you can complain to. The buck stops with me.
The action you can take - easily and for free - is to unfollow, unsubscribe and block me. Never support my work again. Add me to your “sheeple” list.
I don’t want you to lurk. I never want to accidentally amplify your work. I don't appreciate your perspective or point of view.
* But I’m a customer - you can’t talk to me like that.
When you buy from me, you buy that thing from me. You don’t buy ME.
I’m glad you loved my book. It doesn’t mean I have to allow you into my space. Burn my book if you feel strongly about it. If you’re a Bootcamper, I will hold space for you IN THAT GROUP.
But if you bought the course 6 years ago, or yesterday, my values are not up to you. If you’ve been around long enough, you have probably received your value. Our time together might be done.
* Very unChristian / intolerant of you
I’m not a Christian. I despise people using organised religion to discriminate against other people’s rights and bodily autonomy. I’m about marriage equality and safe abortion rights for everyone.
* I thought you were about FORGIVENESS.
Forgiveness doesn’t condone behaviour. It also doesn’t mean you have to continue relationships with abusers. Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself.
Pissing off people absolutely does bring up guilt for me - I’ll be tapping on it all week. I’m chill 90% of the time, and 10% total bitch but yeah, this wasn’t easy to write.
* Wake up - do your research
I don’t watch a lot of ‘mainstream” news - I’m very careful about who I take advice from. Trust me, I’ve done a ton of research over the last four years. I’ve seen enough.
I also have a lot of blind spots and I’m always learning about how I can challenge my worldview.
On this though - I am clear and unequivocal.
Lastly - twenty years ago, I joined a student-led organisation called AIESEC. It was founded in 1948 after World War II to stop future global conflict.
I take this mission very seriously to this day:
"The peace and fulfilment of humankind's potential”
I feel like I’m on the right side of history here.
Time for you to leave my space.
- Denise
P.S - now back to the other 95%. I know it’s scary to have conversations like this and this week is bringing some crazy shit out of the woodwork. Stay strong! Reach out if you need to.
This letter was inspired by Design Mom’s post here: medium.com/@gabrielle_56863/hey-trump-supporters-i-dont-make-content-for-you-17251a58cbd6
It’s amazing, and brave and everything I wanted to say here.
P.P.S - I talk more about politics and entertainment gossip here www.Twitter.com/denisedt
Monday 9 Nov
Today I will .........
Make yourself accountable today. Share one thing you will do and then let us know later how you got on.
This can be work, diet, fitness, home or something just for you, a bit of Me time.
I’ll share my thing in the comments.
#accountability #accountable #lifehacks #justdoit #icandothis #gettingthingsdone #gtd #onestepatatime #lifeaspland #planningiskey #publicaccountability
I have been contacted by the production team of 'Say Yes to the Dress' who are passionate about raising awareness of different conditions to promote understanding and inclusion and would love to help a bride with a visible difference find her perfect dress!
If this is you then apply using the details below or email me your best contact details and I will gladly pass them on! I'd LOVE to see a MTaF bride on the show ❤️ C x
This from @believephq has some great tips. The last lockdown in Spring, brought lovely weather and lots of us tackled our gardens and enjoyed the sunshine.
This time round we see cold, wet and windy weather so it’ll be different and gardening may not be top of anyone’s agenda.
Here are some tips from @believephq (find them on twitter) to help with a winter lockdown.
My youngest has just taken the Governments skills and careers online test as part of a school project.
You may remember it suggested that I, an overweight middle aged woman, should consider being a sport professional. However, we’ve managed to go one better.
It suggested my son should consider a career as an airline pilot.
For those who don’t know, he is totally blind (or severely visually impaired, if we’re being politically correct).
Now, I’m all for having expectations and aspirations, we love a challenge; but as being a pilot requires 20/20 vision, I’m thinking this is a challenge we may give a miss.
#visuallyimpaired #skillsandcareers #loveachallenge #meetthesenparent
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Oh wow... This made me laugh, but at the same time tragic to think of the time and money wasted by the government on setting up that online test 🤦🏻♀️x
Exciting times! I have been working on this, a fantastic new online course, for months.
After months of notetaking, trialling ideas, profanities when software didn’t quite work in the way I hoped and many late nights, we’re almost there. A few more tweaks and this will be available to buy.
It brings together 10 years of coaching experience, along with 16 years of personal experience of having to get back up and fight another day as a mum of three children with SEND.
#motivation #productivity #procrastination #planning #obstacles
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Most Popular Posts
- Review – Teen Calm Box Wednesday, 17th June 2020 The aim of Teen Calm is to help young adults develop a routine that builds self-regulation skills so they can cope with those annoying doubts and insecurities (77)
- Visualising Success Monday, 19th February 2018 When I first heard about Vision Boards (aka Dream boards), I thought “oh that’s nice but I don’t have magazines and glue sticks lying around and I have no intention of buying them”. I moved on. (66)
- The Happy Diary Monday, 25th September 2017 It only takes 5 days and is not a diary you complete every evening, forever. You just do this for 5 days and then when you need a boost, you do it again. (62)
- Me, My Notebook and I Friday, 9th October 2015 Making the bullet journal wok for me. Me, my notebook and I. (54)
- Baker Small (BS), what were you thinking? Sunday, 12th June 2016 This company were not just celebrating a win, they were laughing at the parents who had lost. Somehow, the child at the centre of this didn't appear to be even considered. (53)