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Hello!

I'm Debs, and you've found my little corner of the internet

I am a happily married mum of three.

Our house is home to me, my husband, three children and a huge variety of special educational needs and disabilities (ranging from severe visual impairment to autism, from speech and communication issues to dyspraxia and from osteoarthritis to vertigo). It's also home to one very nutty dog who fits in perfectly.

Having children with SEND has definitely given me a huge bag of tools to help me get back up, time and time again. Tools to help me keep the plates spinning and tools to help me know when I need to focus on self care.

I try to keep it real, I don't pretend I have the perfect Instagrammable home life, work/life balance or eating habits. Like you, I have good days and bad days.

Days when motivation comes easily and days when just getting out of bed is an achievement.

Days when anyone could pop round and I would be delighted to see them, and others when my house is in need of a bit of attention so unexpected drop ins leave me feeling overwhelmed.

Life isn't perfect for anyone but I can help you find that balance so the bad days don't outweigh the good ones.

Life is never ever dull!



I hope you enjoy reading my pearls of wisdom, please
feel free to leave your comments and thoughts.

Debs x

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2 days ago

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Last day of our short break. Breakfast before the journey and I can safely say we’ve had a great time. The Airbnb was perfect - spacious, comfortable and a great base.
Quick stop to buy something I should have just bought yesterday when I saw it (but that would be too much like common sense) and then the drive home to see our beloved dog who has been pampered at our home for the weekend by @tiggrs

A great recharge, much needed and a chance to think about my new project without getting distracted by the day to day necessities. All will be revealed next Monday. One week for me to pull my thumb out and in the words of DJ Jean “get ready for the Launch”

#shortbreak #newproject #launchingsoon #excited #rechargingmysoul #rechargingbatteries
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Last day of our short break. Breakfast before the journey and I can safely say we’ve had a great time. The Airbnb was perfect - spacious, comfortable and a great base. 
Quick stop to buy something I should have just bought yesterday when I saw it (but that would be too much like common sense) and then the drive home to see our beloved dog who has been pampered at our home for the weekend by @tiggrs 

A great recharge, much needed and a chance to think about my new project without getting distracted by the day to day necessities. All will be revealed next Monday. One week for me to pull my thumb out and in the words of DJ Jean “get ready for the Launch”

#shortbreak #newproject #launchingsoon #excited #rechargingmysoul #rechargingbatteries

Comment on Facebook Last day of our ...

My weekend was made so much better, seeing you all! Safe journey home, my turn to drive to you next xxx

So pleased you all had a good time and that celebration too .

Glad you all had a lovely time safe journey home xx

3 days ago

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When she begs you for a 30oz T-Bone as her birthday meal! And she finishes it!

The food and service at @pantyscallogsteak was as amazing as everyone had told us. The portions were huge! My eldest can always be relied on to finish everyone’s chips but even he admitted defeat.

#tbonesteak #hugeportions #merthyrtydfil #weekendbreak

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When she begs you for a 30oz T-Bone as her birthday meal! And she finishes it! 

The food and service at @pantyscallogsteak was as amazing as everyone had told us. The portions were huge!  My eldest can always be relied on to finish everyone’s chips but even he admitted defeat. 

#tbonesteak #hugeportions #merthyrtydfil #weekendbreak 

PD - teenage girl eating a large T-bone steak

Comment on Facebook When she begs you ...

30z!!!! Omg. I used to be able to do that but not now. I had a 12oz the other week and felt sick! 🤣 xx

Oh my goodness that’s a whoppa!!! Did she manage pudding too? Xx

5 days ago

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16! How did that happen? They arrived 3 months early, weighing less than 3lb each. Spent 9 weeks in NIcU, arriving home on Xmas Eve. We worried so much about their future yet somehow here we are, 16 years on and wondering why we were!

R told me what her legal rights were now she’s 16. (She really is my daughter)!

J told me he is now a man and very excited that he can legally have a drink with a meal.

He also told me he can now legally have sex - with consent. I’m very proud that he knew that bit! He was disappointed however, that we hadn’t bought condoms for him but I explained he needed a girl/boy friend first and I wasn’t buying him one of those 🤣

Maybe we were right to be worried!
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16! How did that happen? They arrived 3 months early, weighing less than 3lb each. Spent 9 weeks in NIcU, arriving home on Xmas Eve. We worried so much about their future yet somehow here we are, 16 years on and wondering why we were!

R told me what her legal rights were now she’s 16. (She really is my daughter)!

J told me he is now a man and very excited that he can legally have a drink with a meal. 

He also told me he can now legally have sex - with consent. I’m very proud that he knew that bit! He was disappointed however, that we hadn’t bought condoms for him but I explained he needed a girl/boy friend first and I wasn’t buying him one of those 🤣

Maybe we were right to be worried!

Comment on Facebook 16! How did that ...

I LOVE this! 😆 Happy birthday R&J I’m sure you’ll have a lovely day 💖💙

Happy 16th birthday to you both have a lovely day xx ❤💙

Happy sweet 16th Birthday Twins x

Happy Birthday xx

Happy Birthday to R & J today xxx ❤️❤️

Happy 16th birthday!!

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2 weeks ago

Life AsPland

Just over two weeks to go to our 5th BAPS Awards and I’m practising my “no thanks Lisa” in advance.

The ladies from My Family Our Needs team are notorious for offering shots at the end of the evening; usually just as I have decided to call it a night. I, forgetting I am an adult who should know better, always end up saying “oh go on then, just one”, followed by “let’s do another one Leah”, then “come on Emma, you know I am going to say yes”, and then “thanks for helping me off the floor, Jo/Lulu”. I will, of course, carry on practising - No thanks Lisa, No thanks Lisa.

It’s always a great night with lots of laughter. Being surrounded by people who get it, or who want to offer their support, makes for a relaxed evening and despite never having met many of the other parents in the flesh, we all feel as if we have known each other for years.

I like my little chats outside with the smokers and ex-smokers, I love watching people let their hair down and really unwind, I love the dance floor after the awards and of course, I love sitting next to the lovely hosts. This year, I am super excited as Mathew Horne is our host and I am a huge fan.

Who has got their tickets? If you have been thinking “there’s ages yet, I’ll get round to it”, then here is your reminder that there’s only two weeks to go.

www.myfamilyourneeds.co.uk/baps/

#bapsawards
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Just over two weeks to go to our 5th BAPS Awards and I’m practising my “no thanks Lisa” in advance. 

The ladies from  My Family Our Needs team are notorious for offering shots at the end of the evening; usually just as I have decided to call it a night.   I, forgetting I am an adult who should know better, always end up saying “oh go on then, just one”, followed by “let’s do another one Leah”,  then “come on Emma, you know I am going to say yes”, and then “thanks for helping me off the floor, Jo/Lulu”.  I will, of course, carry on practising - No thanks Lisa, No thanks Lisa.

It’s always a great night with lots of laughter.   Being surrounded by people who get it, or who want to offer their support, makes for a relaxed evening and despite never having met many of the other parents in the flesh, we all feel as if we have known each other for years.  

I like my little chats outside with the smokers and ex-smokers, I love watching people let their hair down and really unwind, I love the dance floor after the awards and of course, I love sitting next to the lovely hosts.  This year, I am super excited as Mathew Horne is our host and I am a huge fan.  

Who has got their tickets?  If you have been thinking “there’s ages yet, I’ll get round to it”, then here is your reminder that there’s only two weeks to go.

https://www.myfamilyourneeds.co.uk/baps/

#bapsawards

Comment on Facebook Just over two weeks ...

Next day 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2 weeks ago

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“When deciding whether to do something, if you feel anything less than “Wow! That would be amazing! Absolutely! Hell yeah!” then say no.”

— Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur by Derek Sivers

One of those quotes that just makes so much sense. There will always be things we have to say yes to, even if we know it’ll never be a hell yeah. Where we do have a choice though, choose wisely.

Have you ever said yes when you really wanted to say no?
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“When deciding whether to do something, if you feel anything less than “Wow! That would be amazing! Absolutely! Hell yeah!” then say no.”

— Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur by Derek Sivers

One of those quotes that just makes so much sense.  There will always be things we have to say yes to, even if we know it’ll never be a hell yeah.  Where we do have a choice though, choose wisely.

Have you ever said yes when you really wanted to say no?

Comment on Facebook “When deciding ...

Always saying yes, I need to learn to say no

2 weeks ago

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On World Mental Health day, remember it’s ok to have feelings that are not all sparkly and wonderful. It’s called being human.

It’s our ability to move on from the less positive feelings that we should be looking at.

It’s ok to feel sad but it’s not so ok to feel sad all day every day with no idea or hope of feeling differently. If you find yourself getting stuck, then ask for help before you find yourself unable to.

#worldmentalhealthday #feelings #sad #angry #frustration #moveon

Pd - you don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared and anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a negative person. It makes you human. Lori Deschene
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On World Mental Health day, remember it’s ok to have feelings that are not all sparkly and wonderful.  It’s called being human.  

It’s our ability to move on from the less positive feelings that we should be looking at. 

It’s ok to feel sad but it’s not so ok to feel sad all day every day with no idea or hope of feeling differently.  If you find yourself getting stuck, then ask for help before you find yourself unable to.

#worldmentalhealthday #feelings #sad #angry #frustration #moveon 

Pd - you don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared and anxious.  Having feelings doesn’t make you a negative person. It makes you human.  Lori Deschene

3 weeks ago

Life AsPland

I don’t know where this originated from - it wasn’t me - but I relate to this more than I like to admit. I’m ordering a click and collect for the weekend so I can disappear for a few hours.

Even though my husband and children all follow me on here, they never check my feed (because I’m a boring middle aged mum) so I can safely post without any fear of them seeing it!

#mumhack #lifehack #metime #planabreak #thankmelater #youarewelcome

PD - mum hack. Order groceries for collection. Tell no one. Say you need to go shopping. Instant 2hr me time
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I don’t know where this originated from - it wasn’t me - but I relate to this more than I like to admit.  I’m ordering a click and collect for the weekend so I can disappear for a few hours.  

Even though my husband and children all follow me on here, they never check my feed (because I’m a boring middle aged mum) so I can safely post without any fear of them seeing it! 

#mumhack #lifehack #metime #planabreak #thankmelater #youarewelcome 

PD - mum hack.  Order groceries for collection. Tell no one.  Say you need to go shopping.  Instant 2hr me time

3 weeks ago

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Someone is not impressed - he hates mornings when everyone leaves for school or work and I’ve added to that by telling him off.

He’s decided to show me exactly how he feels about that.

#dogsofinstagram #stroppydog #moodydog

PD - black and white dog sat facing the back of the sofa with his back to the room
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Someone is not impressed - he hates mornings when everyone leaves for school or work and I’ve added to that by telling him off. 

He’s decided to show me exactly how he feels about that.

#dogsofinstagram #stroppydog #moodydog 

PD - black and white dog sat facing the back of the sofa with his back to the room

Comment on Facebook Someone is not ...

You big bully 😂🤣 Come and live with us Bertie ❤️

Oh bless him xx

3 weeks ago

Life AsPland

How do I feel this morning? Like I was hit by a truck!

Driving along the M25 and then “bang”! A lorry moved into the lane I was in, moving my car out of the way.

Thankfully he stopped and was so apologetic, kept checking I was ok. He said he didn’t see my car and the first he knew was when he heard the noise. The first I knew was when my car suddenly moved to the left and I looked up to see a lorry wheel in my window. I may have said a few naughty words.

Thankfully I was in the car alone.

Thankfully he was insured.

My poor car needs some love and my body needs to just soak in a hot bath. My neck, back, shoulder and bizarrely my wrist are all a tad sore.

My eldest son is super anxious about me, he’s also worried about what happens with the car.

My youngest son is more concerned about me insisting he wear a coat to school today 🙄

My plans for the day have had to change.

#caraccident #hitbyatruck #autism #notintheplan #planschange #ouchthathurt #mypoorcar
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Comment on Facebook 2963278033932382

Ouchey hope you are ok this happened to me a few years ago it’s scary. Unfortunately my lorry driver didn’t accept responsibility. 😡 look after yourself I reckon the sore wrist might have something to do with gripping the steering wheel tightly and trying to stay on course when you are hit xx big hugs xx

Oh my word, I’m so glad you’re ok. Take it really easy over the next few days. What a shock you’ve had xx

Sh*t that must have been scary! Glad you're OK x

Ouch for you and your car! So glad you are ok xxx

Bloody hell Debs! Take it easy! It’s the body shock afterwards … x get those pesky kids off to school & chill x

Hope you’re feeling less bruised now Debs xx

Omg Deb Hope you’re ok, how scary for you xx

Holy shit Deb! Have you been checked over?

Wow Debs…glad you are ok. Sounds nasty… (Ps was it a petrol tanker?)

Hope you’re feeling better soon

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